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Is it normal to stay silent during sessions?

Silence constitutes an integral part of the coaching process, allowing clients to stay with their feelings and thoughts.

The coach is usually silent until the client signals one's readiness to continue the conversation.

How does coaching differ from informal conversations?

The coaching conversation is time-limited and has a clear goal chosen by the client. The purpose of goals is to focus on the desired change.

What do you talk about during sessions?

Usually, clients talk about topics they care about: work, family, friends, hobbies, health, etc.

How do I choose a topic for the session?

A good starting point is the client's needs, deliberations, well-being, others' feedback, or the coach's questions.

As the conversation progresses, the main topic expands or narrows, but this does not necessarily mean that the coach and the client deviate from the agreed topic.

Is it normal to cry during sessions?

It is completely natural to experience various feelings during sessions, such as anger, sadness, anxiety, peace, or joy.

The emotions experienced during a conversation signal that the discussed topic is significant.

How does a coaching session look like?

A coaching session is a sincere conversation between the coach and the client (or group of clients).

Usually, both sides sit opposite to each other (or in a circle in the case of a group). The conversation can also take place remotely or while walking outdoors.

What factors ensure the effectiveness of coaching?

Clear agreements. Both parties discuss the contract at the beginning of the coaching program/session. It may change depending on the client's situation, needs, expectations, progress, and other factors.

Mutual trust. The client must trust the coach's competence, questions, insights, and tasks. In turn, the coach believes in the client's autonomy and ability to make independent decisions.

Motivation. The client should feel motivated to change, improve, know oneself and others, and cope with the psychological discomfort. The discomfort usually arises from new (not necessarily pleasant) realizations, feedback, and the necessity to change.

Psychological health. The health level should allow the client to engage in the coaching process: think, feel, reflect, focus, and make the necessary changes.

The professional behavior of the coach. It covers adherence to coaching competencies and ethics, involvement, curiosity, patience, openness, and respect for the client.

What factors ensure the trust between the client and the coach?

Empathy. It is a sincere concern for the client's well-being while maintaining an equal and respectful stance. The coach can recognize and understand the client's feelings and reflect them back to the client. Unconditional positive regard. It is a form of unselfish love, the ability to accept the client for who (s)he is, becomes, or can become.

Transparency. When it is beneficial to the client, the coach may share (with the client's permission) one's thoughts, consult with the client on further actions, and provide feedback.

What is the impact of coaching?

Greater self-awareness. It is the ability to notice, feel, experience, and understand oneself and others. In the coaching session, we increase our awareness so that our life journey would have a clear direction. Better self-understanding. In coaching sessions, we learn to recognize, feel, understand, and employ various psychological states (e.g., thoughts, feelings, emotions, moods) to make us feel more grounded in life. More self-esteem. Respecting yourself means accepting yourself and often others. We learn how to say 'no' to unacceptable activities, accept 'no' for an answer, recognize our talents and strengths, take care of our needs, and become more self-forgiving. More meaning. We delve into the significance of words, try to understand the importance of goals, and, most importantly, look for areas where we feel most needed in life.

What are the benefits of coaching (for organizations)?

When employees are more conscious, take an interest in their inner world, respect themselves and others, and experience more meaning in life, organizations and communities thrive.

Better financial results, higher customer satisfaction, new projects, and innovations are the result of psychologically mature employees and teams.

What are the benefits of coaching (for individuals)?

Greater life satisfaction, better relationships, a more suitable career direction, etc.

Is coaching only about talking?

Depending on the learning style of the client, conversations can be accompanied by other activities, such as writing, sketching, drawing, acting, or movement.

What is coaching?

Coaching is a form of self-development designed to understand oneself better and achieve meaningful goals.

What is the role of the coach?

To facilitate the client's thoughts and feelings about important topics and issues.

Coaches pay attention to the meanings of the words, contradictions, beliefs, automatic thoughts, connections between different ideas, and the effect of thoughts on feelings and behavior.

How does coaching differ from psychological counseling?

Psychological counseling helps the client cope with emotional and behavioral difficulties. It is a form of short-term emotional support designed to prevent the client from experiencing long-term health issues.

While coaches provide room for self-exploration, a coach is not supposed to treat, comfort, or change the feelings and behavior of one's clients.

What is a coach?

A coach is a person who has completed a coaching program recognized by an international coaching association (e.g., ICF or EMCC). Coaching professionals are often additionally trained in psychological counseling or psychotherapy.

How does coaching differ from psychotherapy?

Psychotherapy helps clients achieve short-term or long-term changes in their thinking, feeling, and behavior that are often limited by psychological difficulties such as depression, anxiety, personality disorders, or psychological trauma.

Well-functioning individuals can also go to therapy if they want to enhance their psychological health.

Coaching professionals are recommended to work only with psychologically balanced clients, except when they have psychological or psychotherapeutic education and relevant experience.

What is a coaching client?

A well-functioning person (or group of people) who wants to understand oneself better and achieve meaningful goals.

What is the role of the coaching client?

To participate willingly in the coaching process, i.e., set meaningful goals, share one's thoughts and feelings, reflect on one's experience, and complete agreed exercises and tasks on time.

How does coaching differ from training?

The training aims to develop specific skills.

Training participants acquire new knowledge or competencies, apply them in practice, receive feedback, and move towards the desired behavior. Also, the analysis and reflection of personal experience constitute an important part of any training program.

Although coaching is impossible without reflective practice, it is not designed to change behavior. Behavioral change is a by-product of effective coaching, not an aspiration.

How does coaching differ from mentoring?

The purpose of mentoring is to transfer or exchange valuable knowledge and experience.

For example, a mentor may share one's experience and knowledge to demonstrate the appropriate behavior that should lead to success.

A coach is supposed to share one's knowledge and experience only when the client wishes or agrees.